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5 Stages of Grief and Ways to Start Healing

5 Stages of Grief and Ways to Start Healing

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The Kübler-Ross Change Curve: Exploring the Five Stages of Grief

Grief is a universal emotion that manifests differently in each person. The extent of its effects is not predetermined and the grieving process can be faced alone, making it an emotionally isolating experience. To help people make sense of this overwhelming emotion, in her book On Death and Dying, Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross proposed a theory of the five stages of grief, which has become a widely accepted model.

It's essential to be compassionate when suffering from grief and to understand and validate your feelings, as well as support those around you. If needed, it is beneficial to reach out to a mental health professional for additional support. Learning to comprehend emotions and how to manage them is key to ease the pain of grief.

The Five Stages of Grief

  • Denial - An initial defense mechanism to give you time to process your new reality.
  • Anger - Intense feelings of anger and frustration as a masking effect for grief.
  • Bargaining - Attempting to make a deal with a higher power in order to restore the loss.
  • Depression - Intense sadness and feeling overwhelmed without any masking effects.
  • Acceptance - A gradual process of coming to terms with the loss, which signifies hope in the healing process.

Although widely accepted, the five stages of grief have been debated and expanded. Initial research was based on conversations with approximately 200 terminally ill patients, so it is important to be aware of its potential flaws. If you find yourself stuck in any one stage after several months, it may be beneficial to seek professional help.

Ultimately, the five stages of grief provide a helpful framework for understanding and managing emotions. It is important to have compassion and patience for yourself and those around you as you go through the grieving process. With the help of family, friends, and mental health professionals, you can eventually make it through the difficult times and accept the loss that has occurred.

Grief: An Overview

Grief is a naturally occurring response to loss, and can look different for every person. Common emotional responses to grief can include feelings of sadness, numbness, shock, fear, despair, a decreased sense of confidence, and an increase or onset of anxiety. Additionally, it's important to remember that everyone responds to loss differently, and may take a varying amount of time to heal.

The Stages of Grief Model

The 5 stages of grief model was originally presented by Dr. Elizabeth K�bler-Ross in her book On Death and Dying. This model consists of five distinct stages of grief that many people can experience at some point in their lives: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. It's important to note that this model is based on anecdotal evidence, and does not apply to everyone's grief experience. Additionally, it can lead to feelings of being "not normal" if a person has a different, or more complicated, experience than the stages model can cover. This is known as disenfranchised grief and can make one's symptoms even worse.

Ways to Process Grief

Understanding your grief and how it manifests in your life is the biggest factor in moving forward. It's important to allow yourself to feel your grief and honor the loss, as well as recognize the signs and symptoms of grief to properly process it. Additionally, creating healthy self-care habits like balancing nutrition, exercise, and meditation can help build a strong foundation for coping with your grief. Connecting with trusted friends and family for support, seeking professional counseling, and finding creative ways to express your grief through music, writing, or art can all be helpful in the healing process.

4 Ways to Cope With Your Grief

Grief can be difficult to manage on a daily basis. The following coping mechanisms can help support you through this tough time:

  • Acknowledge that grief is messy - Grief doesn't follow a set of stages or a prescribed route. Knowing this can free you from feeling like you have to explain it to yourself or to others. It's okay to feel what you feel.
  • Identify and be aware of your feelings of grief - Healing begins when you become aware of what you're feeling, and are able to articulate it.
  • Don't be afraid to ask for help - Talking to trusted friends, family, or healthcare professionals can be immensely helpful in times of grief.
  • Take it one day at a time - Grief is a long journey, and it's important to be patient with yourself and go at your own pace.

Coping with Loss and Navigating Grief

Knowing how to identify and name our emotions is an important part of understanding what we need in any given moment. Taking control of our mental health and well-being can give us the clarity to reach out and ask friends and family members for the kind of support we need, whether that's advice or just someone to listen with compassion. If your feelings of grief persist over time, it's important to consider getting professional help, like Shiken grief coaching which offers an individualized plan to help create a safe space for those experiencing grief, or seeing a mental health care professional if you're struggling with depression.

  • Practice self-awareness and self-care as you navigate your grief.
  • Lead with empathy and understanding if you are caring for a loved one going through a difficult loss.

The 8 Stages of Grief

The 8 stages of grief are a useful framework for understanding the range of emotions individuals can experience as a result of a loss:

  • Shock/Denial
  • Pain/Guilt
  • Anger/Bargaining
  • Depression/Reflection
  • Upward turn
  • Reconstruction/Working Through
  • Acceptance/Hope

It's important to remember that grief is a valid and unique experience, and there's no timetable to go by. Everyone responds to loss in their own way, and it's essential to give individuals the time and space they need to cope with their own feelings. By strengthening your mental fitness and learning to recognize the patterns in your emotions, you can start to take control of your mental health and begin to heal from a loss.

The 5 Stages of Grief: Emptying the Nest

For many parents, the experience of having their children grow up and leave home is often referred to as "empty nest syndrome". This transition can be difficult, and it's not uncommon to feel lonely, overwhelmed, and sad as a result. Psychoanalyst Dr. Elisabeth K�bler-Ross introduced the five stages of grief in her book On Death and Dying, which serves as a useful reference for better understanding the wide range of emotions one may face during this difficult time.

The five stages consist of denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. However, it's important to remember that everyone experiences these stages differently. The progression of emotions may not always be straightforward, and someone may find themselves cycling through certain stages multiple times. Knowing and understanding the five stages of grief can help us come to terms with a major loss and find ways to cope with our feelings and find support from others.

Grieving: Different Ways to Process Loss

The grieving process requires a variety of coping skills depending on one's individual preferences. Some may benefit from reaching out for help from a grief or bereavement counselor. Others may turn to spiritual practices or creative endeavors, while it's important to also take care of physical health during this difficult period.

Support groups, workshops, educational programs on loss and bereavement and grief coaching are also growing in popularity. Grief coaching is a form of coaching that helps people find a purpose after a loss, explore their feelings and set healthy boundaries to move forward. It can be used alongside grief therapy, which can help reduce feelings of depression, anxiety and post-traumatic stress, and improve quality of life.

It's important to remember that there is no single right way to cope with grief. Healing is a deeply personal journey and recognizing and respecting the emotions and needs we have is essential. If you or someone you know is struggling with an empty nest, consider the five stages of grief and apply the strategies outlined above to make the transition smoother.

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