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The subtle, but important, difference between confidence ...

The subtle, but important, difference between confidence ...

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The Difference between Self-Confidence and Arrogance

Confidence and arrogance are two separate beasts, but the difference between them is often easy to miss. An arrogant individual may speak their mind with little regard for the feelings of those around them, and try to monopolize conversations. Meanwhile, somebody with true confidence will recognize their strengths and be humble without diminishing their worth. On the other hand, self-deprecation is a form of insecurity and lack of self-confidence.

The Benefits of Having Self-Confidence

Those with confidence will trust in their own abilities and will collaborate and take risks without fear. Believing in yourself will also allow you to explore growth opportunities and ask for help. This admirable trait will make you both likable and capable, and will in turn inspire the people around you. In addition, having self-trust and intrinsic worth will lead to greater self-efficacy, better decision-making skills, and more creative problem solving.

The Disadvantages of Arrogance

In contrast to confidence, arrogance can damage relationships in both professional and personal settings. People often tire of those who think they are above others and attempt to micro-manage conversations. Moreover, being overconfident can give you the false impression that you don�t need to ask for help or guidance. These traits can quickly limit one�s professional growth and make them a potential liability.

Finding the Balance Between Self-Confidence and Arrogance

It�s easy to swing between feelings of insecurity and overconfidence, and both can be harmful. To reach emotional balance, it�s important to have self-awareness and a strong support system. Here are three tips for keeping the balance:

  • Own Your Feedback: Knowing your worth is not dependent on results or the opinions of others is essential for achieving self-confidence. Trust in your own abilities and judgments without the need for external validation.
  • Set Boundaries: It�s ok to have pride in your accomplishments, but don�t let that become arrogance. When feeling overconfident, be aware of how this is impacting those around you and take a step back to examine your behavior.
  • Value Yourself: Don't rely on external resources for self-esteem. Instead recognize and appreciate your intrinsic value and never forget your own worth.

Building True Confidence

Being able to take feedback from others is an essential trait on the path to building true confidence. Though it is difficult, learning from outside feedback is important even if you don't always agree. The key is to identify areas to improve and then take the necessary steps to become more competent.

Own Your Achievements

The challenge of finding a balance between confidence and arrogance can be tricky. People who are too self-deprecating may worry that they will come off as arrogant. However, avoiding to own your successes may present more issues in the long run. Appreciating your strengths while acknowledging your shortcomings is key. To gain confidence in this area, practice talking about your strengths with others, attend networking events, or enlist the help of a coach.

Own Your Support System

Having the assurance that you can tackle any situation that arises and possessing a true level of confidence does not come from arrogance. Instead, it comes from self-awareness and understanding that your intrinsic value is not based on external conditions. It's important to remember that you don't need to discredit others to build yourself up. To gain true confidence, it's important to accept yourself and take the necessary steps to work on the areas that are more difficult for you. Additionally, having a supportive team that you trust is paramount to success both professionally and emotionally.

2023 Personal Growth Booklist

As we prepare to close out 2022, Shiken wanted to leave our readers with a list of ten must-reads for the upcoming year. These works include:

  • Finding the Way Back to You: 9 Tips on How to Find Yourself, which offers tips and habits on how to really understand who you are and how to live your life
  • The work-life balance questions to ask to get yours on the right track
  • The self presentation theory and how to present your best self
  • Video interviews are here to stay How to adapt on camera
  • 6 ways to leverage AI for hyper-personalized corporate learning

Investing in your personal growth is a great way to gain insight and knowledge that can help improve your life and confidence. Whether that's through reading, attempting new activities, or networking, find the steps that work best for you and your goals!

Harnessing the Power of AI to Reframe Potential into Readiness

The swift and revolutionary progress of artificial intelligence (AI) has changed the way we learn and develop. No longer do we have to rely on potential alone as an indicator of job readiness; now, employers should think about investing in their employees' readiness by helping them to develop their unique skills and interests and providing them with the resources they need to achieve success.

What to Do if You're Passed Over for a Promotion

Getting passed over for a promotion can be an emotionally difficult experience, so it's important to keep your head up and take proactive steps to get back on track. First, take the time to examine what went wrong and identify areas for improvement. Then, take advantage of the opportunity to upskill yourself and acquire new qualifications. Don't be afraid to ask for help - mentors, business coaches, and online resources can all be instrumental in helping you advance your career.


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